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Baar Baar Dekho: If not, at least look deeper
This movie holds a special place in my life. It was the first movie my girlfriend and I watched 6 years back, and we had a big (and first) disagreement over the core message of the movie.
In plain terms, this movie preaches living in the present. Diya (Katrina Kaif), in one of the pivotal scenes of the movie, says — “I’m your present, standing in front of you. Instead, you’re chasing a future that nobody has seen.”
She has a point. Life is trivial. Death is a reality that can visit us before our goals and dreams. The life in front of us may be the only one we have.
But what about the future? Just out of college and living my startup dream, my point of view was similar to what Jai’s (Sidharth Malhotra) response was — “At least, I can plan for the future.”
The things I could achieve in future — startup success, MBA from abroad etc, was more valuable than present. Many of my friends and I had sacrificed my fun and enjoyment for 2 years to get into IIT (premier engineering college in India), and it has worked out well for us.
This has been a fundamental tension in our relationship. Is anything worth accomplishing in the future is no more meaningful than what we can experience in the present?
While the answer was always in front of me, it took four years, multiple discussions, and life experiences to find it.
